The Art, Joys and Education of Playdates
My older son has recently started drop-off playdates. It hasn't caused much of a complaint on either of our parts--he gets to explore another basement or back yard, or is completely distracted with a guest who would love to play hide and seek for an hour straight. And I get an hour or two free from the whinings of “Mooom… play with me” when, really, I’d much rather fold laundry than play Candyland for the eighth time that week.
Of course, my younger son isn't loving it so much. Trying to keep up, he finds the simpler hiding spots and is always found right away (what 2-year-old doesn't giggle when he hides?) The best of the friends are the ones that include him. It makes it easier all around. And when we’re lucky, he feels like it’s really his playdate, too. Before long, Carson’s friend is suddenly Wesley’s friend.
I've been impressed with the variety of playdates we've had. Some moms, like me, simply say "go! play!" Others prepare smorgasbord of activities. Others would rather pop in a movie or two for the kids.
And its the variety about playdates that I love so much. He'll come home from Joey's house having sampled hummus and pitas, grapefruit or a tuna salad. He'll tell me all about Cam's collection of bugs and Aaron's amazing super slide. Last week, Carson came home with a jar of sandart—something I never thought of as a playdate activity before. Here, they often play superkids--wearing capes and shooting off rockets to save the day or playing superhero hide and seek. No matter what they do, they're having fun. They'll collectively use their minds to explore things neither child has explored in the past. Or they'll introduce personal favorites. The kids learn to work with each other. To listen to differing opinions and interest. To take turns.
I find I’m refereeing less squabbles and, as I pull myself away from the job of entertainer, I’m noticing a sense of independence that I wasn’t so sure existed in my 4 year old.
How have playdates changed your experiences with your children? Tell us what you’ve learned and share your playdate activities.